October.
It has been two months since the loss.
It had been a few weeks since I cried about the loss.
I was our grandparents anniversary party.
The party I was going to announce our pregnancy.
It was a bit of an open wound.
At dinner we had my parents, bother, SIL, my nephew, aunt, uncle, cousins, and grandparents together. I love my cousins and I rarely get to see them. I was so happy to be with them, it was a great night. SIL (sister-in-law) said she wasnt feeling well and wanted to go sit in another room my brother went with. It hit me Holy Shit she's pregnant. When they left the table I looked at my parents and asked quietly. My mom says no shaking her head and my father had a smirk on his face.
I didn't know which was worse my mom blatantly lying to me or my dad smirking. It was as if he was smirking at my misery. My suspicion had been confirmed. She was pregnant. Tears streamed down my face. There was no holding back. This meal that I was supposed to announce our pregnancy, I find out about hers.
I was so upset. My Brother and SIL have the most unstable marriage I've ever seen. My brother doesnt realize most of the comments he makes to others are border line abusive and hurtful. We barely have a relationship. I am shocked SIL hasnt left him yet let alone have another child. My parents never corrected his behavior and outbursts, I guess they feel partly responsible for the way he turned out. When he treats my parents like shit, they just accept it. "He's a grown man, he's not changing now" I totally disagree, but hey he's not my kid.
It is upsetting since DH and I get along and have stability in our marriage and just had a loss, while SIL and brother get to bring another child into their troubled marriage.
I excused myself from the table and DH came with. I think my parents finally saw how much I was hurting.
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